Life has caught up with me and I haven't posted here in a long time. But I got an email and a really nice comment and I want to get back on this. Spewing my brain all over the internet is really fun, even if no one's listening.
I try to give compliments. When I recognize that someone has worked really hard on their outfit or hair, I tell them it's cute. Genuine compliments just make everyone's day so much better.
But I'm not the best at being social. Striking up a conversation without being superficial and awkward is a task for me. And I don't think I'm the only one. So this goes out to everyone is unsatisfied with their social situation. People who don't have a lot of friends or are mistreated by their friends or just feel lonely and unwanted.
You aren't unwanted. You are always loved. You are cool beyond belief. And if no one's telling you that, take my word for now. Someone will soon. I strongly believe that life is always cycling around on us, in every aspect. Including socially. You may feel alone now, but at some point you will be surrounded by loved ones who love you and you will look back on now and realize how much better it' s gotten.
At the same time, you may be able to help yourself by taking risks. Say hi. Walk home with someone new. Be the one to invite them over, even if you're not sure how things will work out. I've done it and it's led to amazing friendships. Put yourself out there. A conversation with you might mean so much more to someone than you realize.
We all have the capacity to make other people's lives better, and when we do that we're making ourselves better. If you're down, look up. If you're up, reach down. If you have lost hope in yourself, remember every step takes you further from where you are and closer to where you're going to be.
And YOU get to decide where you're going to be. Isn't that amazing??